Ask The King: Shy and Stranded

"Ask The King" is a TNG advice column featuring local drag king and all-around smooth guy E-Cleff. If you have any questions of your own, send them to aadk@thenewgay.net.


E-Cleff,

I really like black women, but I'm not black. What's a good way to meet black lesbians? I'm kind of shy.

Sincerely,
Stranded


Dear Stranded,

This is great question and I know you are not the only non-black woman who is looking to meet black lesbians in the area. There are a lot of events that host predominantly black parties; however, I wouldn't recommend all of them. Below are a few of my favorites.

1) Ladies First at Fab Lounge in Washington, DC.
This party happens every Wednesday night and pulls a predominantly 21 and over crowd. The party is majority African-American women, but this party is one of the few DC events that gets a diverse crowd of women (and men) of all races. You should check out their pictures here.
(Suggested Night to Attend: November 19 w/ guest bartenders Kin 4 Life).

2) Ladies Tea at the Hippo in Baltimore, MD.
Ladies Tea is every Sunday at the Hippo. This party is a very diverse crowd that gets a lot of African-American patrons. If you work on Monday mornings like majority of us do, don't worry, the party starts at 7pm and ends at midnight. Just enough time to mix and mingle with other women. The Hippo also hosts a Thursday night ladies party that I would recommend as well.
(Suggested Night to Attend: November 2).

3) DJ India's Euphoria DC at Tabaq.
Though it's a 21 and over event, this party tends to get the mature African-American lesbians 25 and over. It's every 4th Friday of the month and starts around 10:30pm. The music is pretty diverse with the DJ playing everything from neo-soul to house to old school. The space is somewhat small, but that can definitely work out to your advantage!
(Suggested Night to Attend: November 28 for the Sexy Jean Party).

I know it might be uncomfortable for non-black lesbians to try out predominantly black parties even though they shouldn't feel that way. Let's be real though, many of the lesbian parties in the DC Metro Area are pretty segregated. The parties above are great places to start and definitely worth checking out. They all have a fun and open atmospheres which I think is necessary for any event.

I hope this is helpful. Good luck!


Much Love,

E-Cleff